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Есть такое ( между строк) именно в той фразе что это должно быть воспринято как лучший комплимент и точка
В выражении ничего собо шовинистского нет, это просто язык. Так же как меня сначала поразило выражение marriage market и meet market. Это просто другая языковая среда и отражение другой культуры. А вот культура да, шовинистическая.
Это опять же смотря с кем общаться
[quote=»MirRijihMisley»]это как наше «хорошая хозяйка»!
я бы не сказала, что вайф материал об этом. скорее о том, что на одних женятся, а других имеют.
о хорошей жене-хозяйке говорят элементарно-гуд хауз вайф.
это как наше «хорошая хозяйка»!
я бы не сказала, что вайф материал об этом. скорее о том, что на одних женятся, а других имеют.
о хорошей жене-хозяйке говорят элементарно-гуд хауз вайф.
это как наше «хорошая хозяйка»!
я бы не сказала, что вайф материал об этом. скорее о том, что на одних женятся, а других имеют.
о хорошей жене-хозяйке говорят элементарно-гуд хауз вайф.
ну так это в нашем дословном переводе. жена, а в обычном и есть хозяйка.
По другому не это ни как не слышиться 
это не » хорошая хозяйка» или » из хорошей семьи» или » хорошая мать»
То другие выражения
Но возможно в контексте было как то по другому это сказано
Как шел разговор?
Обычно не то не другое в глаза не говорят
Говорят за спиной » вот та не вайф материал, а эта вайф материал»
я бы не сказала, что вайф материал об этом. скорее о том, что на одних женятся, а других имеют.
о хорошей жене-хозяйке говорят элементарно-гуд хауз вайф.
я подразумевала не дословный перевод, а реакцию разных людей на одно и то же.
меня, например, коробит от «хорошая хозяйка», хоть, на первый взгляд, ничего негативного в этом нет.
По другому не это ни как не слышиться
это не » хорошая хозяйка» или » из хорошей семьи» или » хорошая мать»
То другие выражения
Но возможно в контексте было как то по другому это сказано
Как шел разговор?
Обычно не то не другое в глаза не говорят
Говорят за спиной » вот та не вайф материал, а эта вайф материал»
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важен контекст, сама по себе фраза может трактоваться «кто во что горазд» 
WIFE MATERIAL: THE 10 QUALITIES THAT MEN ARE REALLY LOOKING FOR
After writing my last post on husband material, I got a lot of requests from my male readers to write a post on wife material – how to find it, attract it, and keep it. When I started to write, I realized that I was pretty much writing the same post (this is why I wrote in the husband material post that “my writing is for all genders and orientations so please, sub where you need to”).
Coaching clients all over the world and connecting with so many of you on social media and email has taught me that no matter what gender, relational dynamic, or orientation… it really is the same bullsh*t.
It’s the same pain, the same heartbreak, and the same fears and insecurities… just different body parts. Our emotions are what connect us all. They blur differences that are the source of a lot of unnecessary judgment and obnoxious reactivity.
I write from the perspective of a straight woman because I am one. It would be inauthentic of me to try and please everyone or to write from another angle, but what I write about is universally applicable.
A selfish, emotional bum is a selfish, emotional bum. No matter what gender they are… they’re lame.
A toxic relationship is toxic. No matter what the orientation or dynamic is… it’s unhealthy.
So for this post, I want to address my male readers and also, my female readers based on what I’ve been hearing from men.
While I’ve been writing my book, I have interviewed hundreds of men from all walks of life: professional athletes, single fathers, students, entrepreneurs, stockbrokers, artists, celebrities, retirees, you name it. One of them has had such a wild life, there is a movie based on his professional and sexual exploits. Some are married, others divorced, but the majority of them are single.
Over the last week, I called up a handful of them.
“How do you know when a woman is wife material?”
“What is it for you that separates one woman from the rest of the pack and puts her in a league of her own?”
I didn’t care about political correctness. I wanted real answers because what I was seeing online… “you’ll know she’s wife material if she likes to cook in lingerie and loves to watch sports!” wasn’t cutting it. Trash like this breeds misery. It makes everyone feel like they’re not being, getting, or worthy enough of it. Our relationships then become transactional performances instead of intimate connections.
And we wonder why we feel so insecure and unfulfilled.
After a few days, I was able to narrow the answers down to ten wife material qualities that these men shared with me.
I hope that in reading this list, ALL of you can get the affirmation to never settle and stop going for what will garner more high-fives from your friends, your family, your culture, or society than genuine fulfillment in your heart.
Choosing yourself over what checks the proverbial boxes and looks good on paper is a level of power, indifference, happiness, and freedom that most people will never have the courage to experience. Their fear won’t allow it.
Luckily for you and me, this is no longer our reality.
First, for the men…
I’m going to keep it simple since I went over a lot of this my last post.
How to find wife material: Yes, there needs to be a physical attraction but please, take my advice here and go for the woman you would never otherwise go for – whatever that may be (I am not just talking about physical appearance here). If you aren’t giving women the chance to become attractive (in the ways that time can never mess with), it’s likely that you aren’t giving yourself a chance to be liked for who you really are by the only person that will ever matter: YOU. If you don’t see it in yourself (because you embody it, not because you want to appear to embody it), we won’t be able to see it in you.
How to attract wife material: Embody what you are looking to attract. Also, make sure that the environment you’re fishing in is conducive to the shark you are after.
Stop fishing in ponds and then wondering why you never encounter a fellow shark. If you want a shark, make sure that you’re in the ocean. Stop thinking that you’re not good enough just because you can’t find a shark in a pond. Stop feeling depleted because you continually get used. You are a shark. A shark cannot survive in a pond and no matter how “good” it is, it will never find a fellow shark in a pond – only common fish that want a free ride. Get back in the ocean. Yes, it’s scary but the real sharks will respect your lack of delusion and be attracted to that level of confidence (not cockiness, there is a difference).
Don’t worry about the women who are only after one thing and make you feel terrible. Their shark fins are fake. Keep going. Wife material women respect ambitious men. I can’t tell you how many physical attributes I would usually notice right off the bat but didn’t notice (or care about) whatsoever because ambition and authenticity is so.much.sexier than winning a genetic lottery (which requires no intelligence, empathy, or effort).
How to keep wife material: Be consistent.
10 qualities that constitute wife material (according to men)
I want to be clear that this is not about being a good person. It’s about what is marriage-material attractive to men as far as romantic relationships go.
Here’s a summary of what the men I interviewed said…
1. She’s doesn’t need me in any way. She wants me. That’s wife material. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who isn’t afraid of being alone.
2. She lets me chase her instead of chasing me and questioning my every move.
3. She isn’t emasculating. And she feels comfortable being vulnerable with me. We support one each other.
4. Even though I’m not exactly where I want to be in life, she can tell that I’m right where I need to be as far as emotional intelligence and maturity go. And she respects that and sees the value in it. She appreciates that I’ve done the work on myself and because of that, she knows that I will accomplish my goals. She wanted me, supported me, and believed in me when I had nothing.
5. She has control over her emotions and because of this, is not a liability that I have to worry about in any way (in regard to having a lack of tact around people I care about). She is predictable where it matters (integrity, honesty, loyalty, character, etc.) and unpredictable where it’s fun (use your imagination).
6. She isn’t emotionally or physically abusive and doesn’t get off to drama.
7. Whether she’s with me or out with friends, everything she does says “I respect myself and I respect the man I am with.” She conducts herself respectfully on social media and isn’t thirsty for attention.
8. She doesn’t play games but she always provides a mental challenge. I’m never bored. She’s comfortable in her own skin and can take my compliments instead of talking me out of them.
9. She has her own life and because of that, has some grit to her. She isn’t cold, she’s just not afraid to take action.
10. She is completely loyal and gives her all but I know that she WILL leave if the trust and loyalty are not reciprocated. That’s basically the difference between wife material and doormat/booty call material.
Bottom line, everything will turn around when you turn inward. When you stop looking for someone to fix you, rescue you, be your rock, and see in you what can’t see in yourself. Remember, you have the ability to choose how you want to live your life, how healthy you want to be mentally, and how you want to be treated.
And to the right man, that’s wife material.
For those looking for doormat material… they can keep walking.
+ If you need further and more personalized help with your relationship, please look into working with me here.
Wife material что это
It’s slang for a woman who would be a good wife.
I’ve heard «husband material» and «president material» before. I haven’t heard «teacher material», but I think it would be understood.
It is slang, though. To be formal, you should say something like «suitable for the presidency» or «a good candidate for becoming a teacher».
There is also »marriage material».
Символ показывает уровень знания интересующего вас языка и вашу подготовку. Выбирая ваш уровень знания языка, вы говорите пользователям как им нужно писать, чтобы вы могли их понять.
Мне трудно понимать даже короткие ответы на данном языке.
Могу задавать простые вопросы и понимаю простые ответы.
Могу формулировать все виды общих вопросов. Понимаю ответы средней длины и сложности.
Понимаю ответы любой длины и сложности.
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How to Be Wife Material: 7 Ways To Make Him See That You Are The One!
This article was written by a professional love strategist. If you want to learn the 7 Little Love Steps, click here.
You’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now. Things are progressing nicely. You’ve both admitted you love each other, and you’re both committed to the relationship. Now, your mission is to make sure he sees you as wife material.
The question is…how do you do that? Short of oohing and aahing over rings when you pass the jewelry store in the mall, you’re not sure what to do to get him in a marriage state of mind.
Not to worry sweet lady, because I’m going to help you figure out how to brand yourself as wife material to the man that you love. It doesn’t require a push-up bra or pretending to be something you’re not. My secret “wife material” formula is based on 100% being yourself. Let’s dive in.
What Does Wife Material Mean?
Being wife material means a happily ever after ending!
While what constitutes a woman being wife material will vary slightly from man to man, we can right away discount what it is not:
It is not a woman who hooks up with lots of men.
It is not a woman who is selfish.
It is not a woman who can’t be herself.
It’s not even a woman who will eagerly await her man by the front door with his pipe and slippers (at least, not anymore).
When a guy says you’re wife material, he typically sees the potential for a (very) long-term relationship with you. But it’s more than just being your boyfriend for years. There’s a certain something that makes him feel like you would make an excellent wife…and maybe mother to his children.
It could be that you’re kind to everyone you meet. Or that you cater to his needs. That you’re his intellectual equal. That you’re mature. That you make his heart go pitter-patter.
Likely, your man couldn’t even quantify what makes you wife material. He just knows it one day. But that day may not be today. That doesn’t mean marriage is permanently off the table…it just means you may need to position yourself as wife material to get the ball rolling.
How to Make Him See You As Wife Material
The fact is: your relationship has evolved over time. You may have started out casually dating and then decided to be exclusive and call one another boyfriend/girlfriend. From there, maybe you moved in together or started saying I love you. Now it’s time for the next phase of your relationship: potentially becoming engaged and getting married.
Women easily and eagerly make the transition from one phase of their relationship to another. Men…not so much. They may need more time to mentally shift from one stage of the relationship to another. That may be why he hasn’t popped the question, even though you’re ready to answer it.
Now, in no way am I encouraging you to manipulate your man to get him to propose. On the contrary; I simply want you to be yourself, but implement a few strategies that will make him start seeing you as wife material.
Wife Material Tip #1: Focus on Exclusivity
Let him know you want to date exclusively.
If it’s still early days in your relationship, you need to make sure he values you as a prize to be won and cherished rather than a Good Enough relationship until something better comes along.
If you’re still seeing other people, stop. You want to show that you’re serious about this guy.
If he’s seeing other people, ask him to stop. Tell him you’ve decided to be exclusive, and you hope he will too because you really see this going somewhere.
Wife Material Tip #2: Spend Time With Him During The Day
what would be some of the biggest changes to focus on making to shift things so that he begins to view you as a high value prize vs. a better than nothing/backup woman?\nFor starters, if you are ready for a relationship with this man, I’d remove the other rotations from your life. They will cloud your judgement and also, if you want him to see you as serious relationship material Routines quickly become ruts, and any man who’s in a rut in his love life is not thinking about the future.
If you can find activities that you can share together, like training for a marathon or cooking classes, you’ll quickly learn more about one another, and you’ll have the potential for long-term happiness. In a study conducted by Kimberley Coulter and John M. Malouff, couples who engaged in shared exciting activities together for 90 minutes a week showed higher levels of romantic-relationship excitement and relationship satisfaction after four weeks. This continued even four months after the study.
Trying something new in your dating routine could elevate your relationship and make you wife material.
Wife Material Tip #3: Open Up To Him
Open up to him and let him do the same.
what would be some of the biggest changes to focus on making to shift things so that he begins to view you as a high value prize vs. a better than nothing/backup woman?\nFor starters, if you are ready for a relationship with this man, I’d remove the other rotations from your life. They will cloud your judgement and also, if you want him to see you as serious relationship material Married couples eventually know basically everything about one another. They’ve shared their secrets, their insecurities, and their lifetime of stories.
You may not be there yet in terms of knowing one another so well, but you have to work up to it. Start by opening up to your boyfriend. Be vulnerable to him. After all, you know you can trust him, so why wouldn’t you share whatever’s on your mind?
Realize that when you open up to him, you also create space for him to open up to you. This isn’t easy for most guys. Trust me.
When he’s ready to open up to you about past pain or things he’s struggled through, listen. Don’t try to fix him. He doesn’t want a therapist; he wants an open heart and maybe a shoulder to lean on.
A woman who is wife material willingly creates this space for the two of you to share your emotions. She listens without judgment, and shares without fear.
Wife Material Tip #4: Show Interest
This is such a small thing to do, so I don’t know why more women don’t do it. If you’re asking yourself: what are the qualities of a good wife, here’s your answer:
She pays attention.
She doesn’t fake interest in what he says. She genuinely shows it.
So just show interest in what he’s into. Really listen when he talks. Be engaged with him so that you can get engaged!
Consider the two following scenarios:
Scenario #1
Him: So something interesting happened at work today…
Him: We dissected the protein and discovered an entirely new subgenre. Horace and I were working together and…
You: Zzzzzz…
Scenario #2
Him: So something interesting happened at work today…
You: Oh yea? That’s cool. What was it?
Him: We dissected the protein and discovered an entirely new subgenre. Horace and I were working together and…
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You: Oh, so this is that project you and Horace started a few months ago? Tell me more!
Which version of you do you think is better wife material? Which is the woman he can see himself coming home to for eternity, eager to share his day with?
If you can’t show interest in what he’s excited about, how can you expect this relationship to last? Even if you’re not into science or sports or wood making, you should be into him enough to be happy to see him get enthusiastic about something.
Likewise, you’d want your husband-to-be to be engaged and listening when you talk about your argument with Bethany or the book you just read, right? So reciprocate already.
Try activities that get you out of the bedroom.
But realize that you want him to see beyond your amazing flexibility and lingerie. You want him to be able to picture waking up to you each morning. You want him to be excited about all those silly little things that make up a marriage, like picking up dry cleaning, planning vacations, and remodeling a home together.
A study of newlywed couples was published in Psychological Science. It found that partners experienced a sexual ‘afterglow’ that lasted for up to two days, and this afterglow was found to keep relationship quality high over the long term. So that frequent banging at the start of your relationship can help cement it down the road.
But after a few months, you need something else. If you take my advice in tip #2, you can break the routine of dinner-then-sex simply by changing up what you do. While certainly, a midday round of mini golf could end back in the bedroom, it’s not a natural progression.
Focus on spending quality time together with your clothes on. After all, if things go according to plan, you’ll have the rest of your lives together to make love. Focus now on engaging in intellectual conversations, playing silly games and telling jokes, and trying new activities.
Wife Material Tip #6: Challenge Him
That idea of a timid housewife who has dinner on the table at six and rushes to get her man a cold brewski is one we can leave behind in the 1950s. Today, men consider a woman wife material if she isn’t afraid to speak her mind and occasionally challenges him.
If you’re the type of person who will call others out when they say something out of line, don’t try to tamp that down in an effort to make this man love you more. Eventually, your true nature will come out, and it may be a shock to his system that you suppressed who you really were in favor of who you thought he wanted you to be.
Be yourself. If this guy can’t handle you, he’s not the one for you.
So what do I mean when I tell you to challenge him?
If he makes an offensive joke, tell him it’s not okay.
If he makes a grandiose claim, ask him to back it up.
If you disagree with him, tell him. It doesn’t mean you will end up in an argument, but he should know that your thoughts differ from his own. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Wife Material Tip #7: Let Him Be Himself
Make sure you’re okay with him being himself and not trying to change him.
Just as I encourage you to be yourself as you try to figure out what makes a woman wife material, you should also give him space to be himself.
Consider whether you put any expectations on him. Do you snap at him whenever he starts whistling? Have you forbidden him from his favorite pastime, like hunting? Do you criticize things he does?
If so, you’re not letting him be himself.
Look, this guy has flaws. We all do. You’re not perfect yourself. So realize there is a difference between annoying but acceptable quirks and dealbreakers. Swallow what simply irks you and let him belt out show tunes in the shower. You’ll survive.
And just a note: if you have a long list of things that you’d like to change about your man, he’s probably not the one you want to marry. Please, please hear me on this: you cannot change another person. You can change your attitude toward him and his flaws, but if you can’t get past certain things, it’s time to move on.
Conclusion:
Being wife material may result in…becoming a wife!
Now that you know what makes a woman wife material, step up your game. While you work on being the best damn girlfriend possible, you’ll reap the benefits, because it’ll all become second nature.
Even if you weren’t the best listener before, trying harder and seeing his positive reaction will only reinforce the behavior and get you to do it more. As you learn it’s okay to challenge him, you’ll loosen up and feel more able to be your sparkly weirdo self around him. Basically, trying to show that you’re wife material will actually make you wife material. Consider it marriage boot camp: spending time assessing how you can be a better partner will benefit both of you in the end.
But no plan is foolproof, because every man and every relationship is different. If you’ve done everything you think is possible to position yourself as the ideal bride-to-be and he’s still not biting after some months or even years, consider sitting down and having The Talk.
You’ve been together a while. You see this heading toward marriage. How does he feel?
By this time, I assume you already know how he feels about marriage. If he swore to you when you first started dating that he’d never, ever, ever get married, it’s kinda your own fault if you let things continue, hoping he’d change his mind. He probably won’t.
But if he’s indicated that he’s interested in getting married and hasn’t made moves in that direction, ask if something has changed. He may open up about an issue you didn’t realize the two of you had, and that’s a great opportunity for some dialogue about it. The two of you will need to work together to decide whether you can overcome this issue or if it ultimately means the end of the relationship.
But know that in general, men move more slowly than women toward that ultimate commitment. Give him time and space to work up to it his own way. But certainly, if you reach a point where you feel you cannot continue the relationship without a proposal, talk to him before walking away.
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